Mariela Garcia
4 min readJun 28, 2023

Have you checked yours lately?

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In one’s life, we will face an average of nine hardships. You can let those situations affect your life permanently or you can see the silver lining.

I personally believe our perspective defines whether we grow from a situation or not.

Childhood Trauma

When I was young my dad was an alcoholic and was abusive to our pets, my mom and us kids. As you can imagine, I never grew up dreaming of what my dream wedding would look like. I never wanted to get married or have kids.

With the example my parents set, I wondered why anyone would want to get married. I didn’t even want to have children because I didn’t want them to experience the hurt and fear that I had growing up.

Luckily, I decided to get married. I had children. It is the best decision I ever made. I live for them because I didn’t know that I could ever be this happy.

I am grateful that my perspective has changed on marriage and parenthood. I wish this for everyone. There is nothing like having a family of my own that I get to re-live my childhood with.

I work hard to create a healthy environment for my family. I work on myself daily to not let my traumas affect me as a mom or wife.



Mariela Garcia

Happy person. I have a Masters in Public Administration and have certifications in finance, and life coaching. Currently pursuing my teaching credential.